Now that I now I'm not going to be having any more babies, I still enjoy reading new mommy bloggers. Dear Crissy is one of those gals. I noticed her talking about late nights, colic and co-sleeping recently. Her post, Is Co-Sleeping with Baby a Good Idea?. Got me to thinking about my own experience.
It is not that these things are just now happening. These things have went on for years, decades and centuries. We as people are finally recognizing the crime involved and hopefully our actions will save lives.
Honestly, by the grace of God is the only real explanation I can put to it. I would sadly have to add my own mother to the list. I have a very difficult time understanding the way these people think. What motivates people to attempt to destroy others. Or for that matter, to be indifferent to others? Have you ever wondered why someone would intentionally hurt or injure another person? I have always held the idea of "Do Unto Others as You Would have Them Do to You".
This kid is amazing! If he had a job he could have fixed up the truck or put his money with his parents, if that was agreeable to the parents, to purchase something more to his liking.
I find the "entitlement" that these kids think they have to be disgusting.
It's not too late to teach something or to learn something. Giving up is the only thing that stands in the way of trying.
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Dishwater Dreams has some interesting
and thought-provoking tidbits to get your brain working.
Don't try to make your kids be independent too early.
Ironically, when they know they have someone to rely on, they become more self-reliant, better able to cope with all life throws at them, and more motivated to success.
Parenting. I like this one. It is
- It will create happier adult children.
- Improves the outcome of or Legacy.
So, what do you think? In the day and age of hovering parents and over indulgence, will you provide a stable mental and emotional foundation for your child or grandchildren?
I know this has been my "life's work". To raise children that are self-reliant, motivated and emotionally and mental stable. I've grown up with the woman who puts down my success and cheers my failures. I've lived the In-Law nightmare of "Mother Knows Best"--NOT! Why did I come out better off than my brother's and sister's? Well that is a whole nother story.
I've always read self-help and parenting books. I've put my mind to raising "Great" people. I want better than I had for them. I've spent my days really getting to know my kids. You know what I mean? What really makes them "tick". I think it is like Intentional Parenting. To me, it was parenting with a purpose.
I'm proud of my children.
They are learning to be leaders.
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I have always been a stay at home mom. I had planned to go back to work part-time. I felt I needed it to maintain balance between me and being a mom. To keep my personal identity. Our oldest having apnea of prematurity put a stop to that. My mom hormones kicked in and there was no way I could leave her in someone else's care. Not to mention the cost of a babysitter and my paycheck. Why work to support someone else's home. It was a "no brainer".
Since I started blogging it has brought up some very important thoughts about me and who I am. I have LOVE being home with my children. I would not replace those days for anything. I did not accomplish the goals I had set for them or myself. I have tried and succeeded in some but not really #momfail either. My life took some turns I had not anticipated nor planned.
The kids getting older and all being in school had prompted me to start thinking about things I could do for work. Let's face it the economy is making it more and more difficult to make ends meet. Since I was in the car accident working outside of the home is not possible. I must have flexibility that can not be provided in the work place. I always crafted and read books. I'm a big proponent of self-improvement and growing spiritually. So these would be easy for me to pick up and do to contribute to the income needs of our family.
I've always had to do everything myself. Not because I would not ask for help, because I was told I didn't need help. So I've had a bit of an obstacle laden life. I'm making progress at getting my husband and kids to understand that I'm not the maid. They have all had this tendency, which I can't figure out why. I've never been the, "Oh, let me get that." kind of parent. I want my children to grow to be independent and confident. I know what my husbands deal is, he was brought up that way. And he travels for his job and spends too much time being waited on at restaurants and hotels. Boo!
My challenge in blogging and working on the craft businesses have been that they think I'm ignoring my responsibilities. I just want to beat my head into a brick wall. All 7 of them are perfectly capable to do their share and take part. I've read different blogs about organizing and I've never been able to figure out how "women can do it all". I'm not one to over schedule intentionally. I like a smooth order to my day and I have no desire to run to every seasonal sporting event offered to kids these days. I want to live life! And life to me is not creating athletes. Exercise is good. Sports become excessive. Sorry, to all who think otherwise, but it is my opinion.
When I saw Amanda's offer to guest post and visited her blog I felt she could give some recommend some ideas to my dilemma. She will be featured here as my guest Wednesday. She is a pastor's wife, gym manager and preparing for dental hygienist school. I asked her to write her suggestions to a SAHM planning to start an at home business. I hope you find her suggestions helpful.
What do you think is your biggest challenge as a mom trying to keep some of your personal identity?